I am who I am...

There are many people who are ashamed of who they are and I feel weird about it.

Case to point: someone I know. She cannot speak a word of truth where anything concerning herself or her opinions are concerned. Basically, she is not a dishonest person. But the moment an opinion on any subject needs to be expressed, she goes with the majority vote or the point of view she thinks sounds "right"! Everything she says is a gross exaggeration of the truth to the extent that she has forgotten how to react to situations in a normal way. eg, if someone lends her a pen for some work, she will gush over the person as if that person had just saved her life!

I feel bad for people who feel so bogged down by what people think about them and so feel it difficult to express themselves. I am not sure whether it is insecurity, lack of self esteem or just peer pressure that makes people this way.

But I value people who have individual opinions. I value people who can think for themselves. I value people who can be independent minded.

Regret or rejoice?

Long distance relationship

What is a long distance relationship? Is it just a series of hardships or is it a way to test oneself and your loved one? Being the optimist that I am, at most times at least, I think a long distance relationship is a way in which two people can figure out how strong their relationship is.

There is no doubt that a lot of stress is created on both persons concerned in a long distance relationship. It is the ability to handle that stress that makes one more successful than the other. So what is the formula for a successful long distance relationship?
Commitment?
Understanding?
Empathy?
Compassion?
Trust?
Ample space?

I don't know. I am not an expert, but a shrewd guess would be a liberal dose of most of these. Yet, so many relationships fail. Is it because they do not realise these basic tenets or is it because the stress gets too much to handle? I guess the answer lies only with those few exceptional couples who make it through...they are the true survivors. I raise cheers to all those who made it through and my empathy for those who didn't.