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Monday, July 10, 2006

Long distance relationship

What is a long distance relationship? Is it just a series of hardships or is it a way to test oneself and your loved one? Being the optimist that I am, at most times at least, I think a long distance relationship is a way in which two people can figure out how strong their relationship is.

There is no doubt that a lot of stress is created on both persons concerned in a long distance relationship. It is the ability to handle that stress that makes one more successful than the other. So what is the formula for a successful long distance relationship?
Commitment?
Understanding?
Empathy?
Compassion?
Trust?
Ample space?

I don't know. I am not an expert, but a shrewd guess would be a liberal dose of most of these. Yet, so many relationships fail. Is it because they do not realise these basic tenets or is it because the stress gets too much to handle? I guess the answer lies only with those few exceptional couples who make it through...they are the true survivors. I raise cheers to all those who made it through and my empathy for those who didn't.

posted by Strictly for my friends at 4:38 pm

14 Comments:

  • A long distance relationship bring to the fore how strong or weak a person is : most of the people get blown away so easily.

    Its only the fiercely loyal who make long distance relationships work - the meek and the weak drown in the wake of insecurities and related issues.

    By Blogger Anshuman, at 4:57 pm  

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    By Blogger Anshuman, at 6:08 pm  

  • Well I am not a grt fan of long distance marriage and whatever I have seen it usually does not work..unless both the people involved are really really mature and committed and patient!

    By Blogger Ekta, at 2:46 pm  

  • Long/short distance, true love prevails.

    Thanks for dropping by pretty girl ;-)

    Keshi.

    By Blogger Keshi, at 11:45 am  

  • long distance relationship ...., it is like solving a shakuntla devi's puzzle. It sharpens your mind, it allow you to think in proper air, without distracting you with a physical touch etc. It gives you a freedom to choose that relationship with much more time to think about it.

    It prepares you mentally so strong that you can handle any situtaion quite easily, coz you would have thought about it somewhere, sometime.

    But the key to such a relationship is openess, more so coz you are not there in front of each other, so the body language cannot speak much, so open your heart, your thoughts and your feelings and the bond of your love with be stronger than a Fevicol bond :)

    -ATG

    By Blogger Anil.kumar03@gmail.com, at 12:42 pm  

  • well,
    dicey topic...have seen these relationships working and also not working.Guess it ultimately boils down to the two people involved--its yet another test that lives brings for u!

    By Blogger Anand, at 8:17 am  

  • Commitment would def top the list.. But endurance wud to.. Coz its extremely difficult to be away from your loved one..

    But above all.. coz thats the one thing that can sustain beyong all impediments and the distances..

    :)

    ..Me

    By Blogger Rose, at 2:46 pm  

  • Hey after my wedding I had a long distance relationship with my hubby for a year and half...OUR ATTITUDE was the KEY. if we want things to work they will and if we want it to collapse tht will too. You need to be very sure tht you want the relationship to last and no distance will stand in between. Good thinking here.

    By Blogger SCRIBBLEZ TO WAKEUP, at 12:20 am  

  • its the same with every relationship
    there are challenges and hurdles that have to be overcome, i guess like everything else in life, its subjective. depends on the person

    By Blogger Raghav, at 9:23 am  

  • Can we add "perseverance" to the list?

    you need to have this a lot ....to get it work!

    By Blogger SeePearrl, at 10:45 pm  

  • Long distance relationships work, after I was married, my husband was in India for close to a year before he came.we have made it this far.I think if you are not married it takes a lot of commitment and understanding.

    By Blogger starry, at 4:08 am  

  • LOng distance most diff to work out :(

    By Blogger Ankit, at 7:02 am  

  • hey:)...first time here!

    i've been wid rajiv for 10 years now....phew...we were apart for most of the time that we dated (we dated for 4 years)...coz he was studying elsewhere etc...wasn't easy being away and staying together...but well, we did alright and now we've been married for 7 years!...

    ummmm...commitment and simply knowing u want to be with someone...that's what matters...i'd always tell R..."we'll take each day as it comes...and if i like my tdy wid u, m gonna want to be wid u tmrw!"...*grin*...gotta make it work all d time u know...relationships are like that!

    hmmm! long comment na...lolz...

    liked d way u put things across:)

    By Blogger ishipishi, at 8:38 pm  

  • whether they work out in the end or not, long distance relationships are never easy. I for one am in one and sometimes it's just too painful a wait. I guess it all boils down to your inner strength and the circumstances sometimes.

    By Blogger TheExperimentalMom, at 2:19 pm  

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