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Monday, July 24, 2006

I am who I am...

There are many people who are ashamed of who they are and I feel weird about it.

Case to point: someone I know. She cannot speak a word of truth where anything concerning herself or her opinions are concerned. Basically, she is not a dishonest person. But the moment an opinion on any subject needs to be expressed, she goes with the majority vote or the point of view she thinks sounds "right"! Everything she says is a gross exaggeration of the truth to the extent that she has forgotten how to react to situations in a normal way. eg, if someone lends her a pen for some work, she will gush over the person as if that person had just saved her life!

I feel bad for people who feel so bogged down by what people think about them and so feel it difficult to express themselves. I am not sure whether it is insecurity, lack of self esteem or just peer pressure that makes people this way.

But I value people who have individual opinions. I value people who can think for themselves. I value people who can be independent minded.

22 Comments:

  • i remember being constantly concerned abt what the world was thinking abt me, at one point of my life. thankfully i stopped being the football of other peoples opinions (phrase courtesy Sri Sri RS, and started living my life, on my own terms. and am glad that I finally did!

    evocative post!
    :)

    By Blogger V N, at 3:55 pm  

  • I know many people like the above mentioned person.Sometimes it's irritating when they take on a whole new persona and try to hide something that they are,they feel ashamed of themselves for reasons you have stated.wish they could just find themselves and be their own person peacefully...putting up a show is never the answer after all,isn't it :)

    By Blogger Maya Cassis, at 4:37 pm  

  • She has low self-esteem or confidence? To some extent all of us want to please and be liked but that is a bit too extreme.

    Hopefully she finds her way thru life ok.

    By Blogger karmic_jay, at 4:49 pm  

  • I wrote a long comment n blogger didnt publish it :(

    Anyways I so know the kind of people u r talking about and I have consciously made sure I dont do things or talk in one manner as I want to be in the cool crowd...I didnt want to be accepted in a gang by changing who I am as speaking in the shallow manner is lying to myself...

    Initially my frnds thought I was weird but now they know tht I wont fall for any thing tht is so called "the cool gang" and I have my own identity..
    When I come across all these people who have this artifical thing to them i only want to tell them "Have a mind of your own"...

    Even though there r so many such fancy people followig and trying to be like they understand n love wht a group loves, there r few who are not frivolous too!

    Till today I really am not into music, wont remember the names of the bands or maybe eben the actors or anythng n people really think I am a looser but I dont really care!

    I love this post....I love being me and not pretending...I do tht so well when I am the onyl one who will disagree to some view in the blogosphere and every other perosn says "yes, wht u say is right"...I mean if I dont agree I will say I dont and wont pretend tht I feel the same like many people do!

    By Blogger SCRIBBLEZ TO WAKEUP, at 8:30 pm  

  • Putting your happiness in the hands of other people, is not a good idea indeed... ;)

    By Blogger Kuan Gung, at 8:22 am  

  • To live life to be perceived by other alone is a life so shallow and a hollow tinsel. It might glitter yet it is never ever a gold

    By Blogger Traveling Soldier, at 8:57 am  

  • I think everyone has a mind of their own and need to exercise it.But some are worried about what others think and thats why they just agree with the majority.

    By Blogger starry nights, at 10:39 am  

  • hey pretty gal :)

    **But the moment an opinion on any subject needs to be expressed, she goes with the majority vote

    thats silly.


    **or the point of view she thinks sounds "right"!

    haha!


    **But I value people who have individual opinions. I value people who can think for themselves. I value people who can be independent minded.

    I like such ppl too. But what we must realise is that not everyone is so strong and indepedent as some of us r when it comes to decision-making. If she's ur friend, tell her abt it and maybe help her to be independent in future. Im sure u can help her :)

    Keshi.

    By Blogger Keshi, at 12:45 pm  

  • This is an interesting post:)
    Who doesn't appreciate honesty of open minded people? i guess everyone!
    I usually fear offending people saying my true opinion only to those who are very close to me.
    With people the dull boring Politness is the mask I wear.. I know am not brave enough

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 7:06 pm  

  • Trying to become someone else is a waste of the person u are.

    i would like to be hated for a person who i am rather than loved for being a person I m not.

    kurt cobain said so

    By Blogger Ankit, at 12:32 am  

  • Hey I agree..
    such people are a big turn-off to me...everything abt them sounds so artificial that I can never trust such people!

    By Blogger Ekta, at 9:30 am  

  • I feel sad for such ppl...simply cos they r trying to push aside / hide the real person in them & be a sort of hypocrite. But well, who knows why they ever land up doing such things! God save!

    By Blogger Has to be me, at 6:16 pm  

  • hmmm...low self esteem & lack of confidence...not an easy thing to get past and more so wen ppl arnd won't help u deal wid it...ummm...that's if those are the reasons behind wanting to "belong" and "be accepted"...sometimes the motivation is “being plain selfish” or to “gain something”

    to a certain extent, most of us do bother abt what ppl arnd r thinkin but of course there's a diff in being concerned yet taking stand that may not conform with everyone elses...and in hesitating to form an opinion and believing in it...

    i don't hate such people...i just pity their state...

    By Blogger ishita, at 9:07 pm  

  • well i don't know how exactly to help them...
    but i guess i end up ignoring them..may be like the way we try not to entertain beggers, so as to discourage them....

    By Blogger scarecrow, at 9:07 pm  

  • some ppl are like that and some arent, insecurity ...mmm...maybe
    but then dont we all try to please others ?
    family, friends, loved ones... we try and please anyone who matters to us in our own way

    By Blogger Raghav, at 9:59 am  

  • oh absolutely true, I see around me , there are ppl who always add "yes" to whatever people say, but their exaggeration of the emotions, really can irritate you. But I guess, they do not introspect themselves and unfortunately they dont have much good friends to correct them. but its life, different people differnt thoughts ..


    -ATG

    By Blogger Anil The Great, at 11:43 am  

  • 2 kind of people
    - one who are so bogged down by what the world has to say about them.
    - the other who dont give a damn

    but wait, theres a third kind, the best of the breed, who unlike the first, dont let their thought be overruled. And unlike the second category, dont turn a blind eye to the world. This pool of people, are the learners, who believe in picking up things from what the world has to say, and add the pieces of information to their own understanding - they are the ones who evolve with time.

    The other 2 categories - they rust.

    By Blogger Anshuman Ghosh, at 2:31 pm  

  • Each one of us differs in shape, size, the way of thinking and in practically every action. So you see...

    Every one of us thinks in terms of what others think about us. It is an inborn decease which has no cure.
    I too have it and I can't help it. How ever I try to dodge it, it creeps in.

    By Blogger jac, at 5:54 pm  

  • okayz... so how abt a new post?
    :)

    By Blogger V N, at 12:47 pm  

  • That is very interesting. I know people like that too... insecure about themselves. This friend of mine, she "embellishes" everything she has to say about her. For example, "I went to this friensd place... they treated me like a princess." They probably said "We are glad to see you" and gave her coffee :)

    By Blogger Twisted DNA, at 1:21 am  

  • I can never trust a person who has no mind of their own!

    By Blogger Sumitha, at 4:26 pm  

  • Me too, that's why I like you!!! :o)

    By Blogger Trailady, at 12:52 am  

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